Happiness: take responsibility for your own

After we both felt such a benefit from our vacation summit this spring (ie forcing an appointment/date with a planned topic), this summer, my husband and I opted to do some relationship building exercises–forcing other discussions during date time. We’re following the guide of an ebook we’re reading (sorry, no link is available, yet) to create our list of things that will make us happy, individually, in the next four to six weeks.

happiness list

The idea is that we can’t rely on each other to make us happy all the time–we have to create our own happiness.

When we came to this task, I quickly responded, full of pride, “well, I’ve already done this. I have a life list on my blog.” Then, I looked at my never-ending life list and realized two things:

  1. I should update it because, woohoo!, I’ve already done some of these things.
  2. This isn’t a short, 4-6 week list.

So, yeeeeaaah. I wasn’t already done my list.

Now, admittedly, I’m a pretty happy person, so my list doesn’t vary too far from what I’m already doing. But after some thought, I’ve decided on a few short-term happiness goals for the next month or so:

  1. Make doctor appointments to keep my “systems” in check. (Dermatologist, done. To do: dentist (awaiting new insurance to start), gyno, mammogram.)
  2. Eat clams (sadly, I never got to have them last month in Maine.)
  3. special time with family, enjoying my family, doing exciting and different things (heading to Family Forward event soon!)
  4. more time reading (I’ve spent a lot of time reading this summer and I’m loving how relaxed it’s making me. Must keep the momentum going.)
  5. Take a painting class with friends
  6. Go on at least 2 date nights with my husband. I might not be relying on him for my happiness, but we can still go out and have fun together!
  7. Take an online photography class so that I can do as I learn

While my husband is working on his happiness list, I hope you’ll take some time, too. Go ahead and think of a few short-term goals that you can do for you. You have to be responsible for your own happiness… now get to it.

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mom of 3 and wife living in the Philadelphia suburbs, Julie is a former elementary school teacher and a Public Relations manager. She is the owner/editor of Julieverse, a merchandiser with Chloe + Isabel (jewelryverse.com) and founder VlogMom and Splash Creative Media. A marketing strategist and freelance education and parenting writer by trade, Julie attempts to carve out time to enjoy playing with her kids, PTO, cooking and exercise.

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  1. says

    It’s true that you can’t make your happiness rely on only one person. It’s good to have many different things to make you happy.

    I just recently found your blog but I’ll be coming back. Thanks for this.


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